What Thoughts Keep Rotating In Your Head?

“I got a lotta s**t in rotation” from Dithering by Ani DiFranco ” I got a lot of s**t in rotation.” Shout out to native artist and activist, Ani DiFranco, for providing the perfect lead into this blog.      Many of us are stuck in our heads more than ever due to Covid-19. The National… Read more »

He’s a therapist, I’m a therapist, we just had a fight.

He’s a therapist, I’m a therapist, we just had a fight. My friends speculate that therapists don’t argue. Or if they do, that the disagreements are low key, even pleasant. But that is not the case with me and my long time partner, Jim. We don’t disagree often and when we do, it is pretty… Read more »

Shelter from the Storm Using Grace

“Come in, she said, I’ll give you shelter from the storm”  I confess I am not a huge Dylan fan. In my opinion, Bob Marley is music’s poet laureate. Dylan’s lyrics serve the purpose here though. At least, here is how I choose to interpret his words for this blog. “She” in my mind, is grace…. Read more »

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma Now that I am a grandma, I think back on one of the most important figures in my life with even more awe and respect. My grandmother was an immigrant as a young bride at the age of 18. She taught herself English by reading the newspaper, but then, again,… Read more »

Resilience in Anxious Covid.-19 Times

Resilience in Anxious Covid Times “Most people prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty” Virginia Satir Resilience in Anxious Covid-19 Times is needed to help us get through the unknown. I wish I could reassure you that certainty was something you could always have at your disposal. Actually, I can, just not… Read more »

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids Or maybe sheltering at home from your kids? Kids are energetic and endearing. But sometimes you need a break from their energy, it can be a challenge. They can wear you out.  Even the family dog needs a rest. Thank goodness, the packaging is appealing. We love these kids.Here… Read more »

COVID-19 and Resilience for Couples at Home

COVID-19 and Resilience for Couples at Home Is there anything worth writing about other than the current virus crisis we are all experiencing in different ways and yet the same? Blogs are writing themselves on this topic. The tone is often dire and fearful. This is understandable given the possible outcomes of contracting COVID-19. Our… Read more »

Why We Might Be Resisting Therapy

Resisting Therapy “There’s nothing wrong with me” I have clients, mostly men, that confess that they have been resisting therapy. Some are curious about it but never will go. Some secretly wish they could go but don’t want to admit this. Many resist because they are embarrassed or they do not think therapy works. “What… Read more »

Let It Marinate: Can we re-train our Brain?

Let It Marinate Can we re-train our brain to become more resilient? We are in the midst of a revolutionary period of brain science that is rapidly changing the ways in which we assess and treat mental illness. Without getting too technical, it is generally accepted that our brains are more like soft plastic than… Read more »

Resilience and Self-Care, Do Vacations Count?

 Is Resilience Self-Care?   Resilience and self-care, do vacations count? No doubt, cultivating resilience is an asset, but is it self-care? Resilience has turned out to be one of the most useful traits a person can have or cultivate. It can improve your mental health. No matter the situation, if one is resilient, the outcome… Read more »