Gray Divorce, A Therapist’s View of Break-Ups after 50

Gray Divorce, A Therapist’s View of Break-Ups after 50 “Gray Divorce” is a term used to describe couples age 50 and over who end their marriage. This trend is on the rise. The Institute of Family Studies conducted a study in 2012 about divorce. They concluded that divorce is declining among married people 25-39. But… Read more »

How to Stop Negative Thoughts From Rotating In Your Head

“I got a lotta s**t in rotation” from Dithering by Ani DiFranco ” I got a lot of s**t in rotation.” Shout out to native artist and activist, Ani DiFranco, for providing the perfect lead into this blog.      Many of us are stuck in our heads more than ever due to Covid-19. The National… Read more »

How to Fight Fair, we are therapists, we just had a fight.

He’s a therapist, I’m a therapist, we just had a fight. My friends speculate that therapists don’t argue. Or if they do, that the disagreements are low key, even pleasant. But that is not the case with me and my long-time partner, Jim. We don’t disagree often and when we do, it is pretty civilized…. Read more »

Sheltering from the Storm of The Virus

Sheltering from the storm of the virus seems to be the prevailing strategy. “Come in, she said, I’ll give you shelter from the storm”  I confess I am not a huge Dylan fan. In my opinion, Bob Marley is music’s poet laureate, but Dylan’s lyrics serve the purpose here though. At least, here is how I… Read more »

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma Now that I am a grandma, I think back on one of the most important figures in my life with even more awe and respect. My grandmother was an immigrant as a young bride at the age of 18. She taught herself English by reading the newspaper, but then, again,… Read more »

Resilience in Anxious Covid.-19 Times

Resilience in Anxious Covid Times “Most people prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty” Virginia Satir Resilience in Anxious Covid-19 Times is needed to help us get through the unknown. I wish I could reassure you that certainty was something you could always have at your disposal. Actually, I can, just not… Read more »

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids Or maybe sheltering at home from your kids? Kids are energetic and endearing. But sometimes you need a break from their energy, it can be a challenge. They can wear you out.  Even the family dog needs a rest. Thank goodness, the packaging is appealing. We love these kids.Here… Read more »

COVID-19 and Resilience for Couples at Home

COVID-19 and Resilience for Couples at Home Is there anything worth writing about other than the current virus crisis we are all experiencing in different ways and yet the same? Blogs are writing themselves on this topic. The tone is often dire and fearful. This is understandable given the possible outcomes of contracting COVID-19. Our… Read more »

Therapy Resistance Is A Thing

Resisting Therapy “There’s nothing wrong with me” I have clients, mostly men, that confess that they have been resisting therapy. Some are curious about it but never will go. Some secretly wish they could go but don’t want to admit this. Many resist because they are embarrassed or they do not think therapy works. “What… Read more »

Let It Marinate: Can we re-train our Brain?

Let It Marinate Can we re-train our brain to become more resilient? We are in the midst of a revolutionary period of brain science that is rapidly changing the ways in which we assess and treat mental illness. Without getting too technical, it is generally accepted that our brains are more like soft plastic than… Read more »