Posts Categorized: Resilience Blog

Negative Thoughts? Change your Playlist

Get rid of negative thoughts, change your playlist It has was suggested that I do a follow-up on my last blog which discussed playlists in our heads. Here is why: 1. Our thoughts and feelings can be intrusive and not always helpful. 2. As a huge music fan, I often use specific music to counter… Read more »

How to fight fair, we are therapists, we just had a fight

He’s a therapist, I’m a therapist, we just had a fight. My friends speculate that therapists don’t argue. Or if they do, that the disagreements are low key, even pleasant. But that is not the case with me and my long-time partner, Jim. We don’t disagree often and when we do, it is pretty civilized…. Read more »

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma

COVID-19, the Economy and Grandma Now that I am a grandma, I think back on one of the most important figures in my life with even more awe and respect. My grandmother was an immigrant as a young bride at the age of 18. She taught herself English by reading the newspaper, but then, again,… Read more »

Resilience in Anxious Covid-19 Times

“Most people prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty” Virginia Satir Resilience in Anxious Covid-19 Times is needed to help us get through the unknown. I wish I could reassure you that certainty was something you could always have at your disposal. Actually, I can, just not the way you might be… Read more »

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids

Sheltering At Home With Your Kids Or maybe sheltering at home from your kids? Kids are energetic and endearing. But sometimes you need a break from their energy, it can be a challenge. They can wear you out.  Even the family dog needs a rest. Thank goodness, the packaging is appealing. We love these kids…. Read more »

COVID-19 and Resilience for Couples at Home

Is there anything worth writing about other than the current virus crisis we are all experiencing in different ways and yet the same? Blogs are writing themselves on this topic. The tone is often dire and fearful. This is understandable given the possible outcomes of contracting COVID-19. Our philosophy at Resiliencetree.com, however, is that crisis… Read more »

Therapy Resistance Is A Thing

Resisting Therapy “There’s nothing wrong with me” I have clients, mostly men, that confess that they have been resisting therapy. Some are curious about it but never will go. Some secretly wish they could go but don’t want to admit this. Many resist because they are embarrassed or they do not think therapy works. “What… Read more »

Let It Marinate: Can we re-train our Brain?

Let It Marinate Can we re-train our brain to become more resilient? We are in the midst of a revolutionary period of brain science that is rapidly changing the ways in which we assess and treat mental illness. Without getting too technical, it is generally accepted that our brains are more like soft plastic than… Read more »

Resilience and Self-Care, Do Vacations Count?

Is Resilience Self-Care? Resilience and self-care, do vacations count? No doubt, cultivating resilience is an asset, but is it self-care? Resilience has turned out to be one of the most useful traits a person can have or cultivate. It can improve your mental health. No matter the situation, if one is resilient, the outcome will… Read more »

Mindfulness Can Help Boost Your Resilience

This mindfulness thing is everywhere and sometimes in danger of becoming ‘McMindfulness’. In my estimation, you can’t have resilience without some level of mindfulness. Jon Kabat Zinn, who brought formalized mindfulness techniques to the masses in the Western Hemisphere, defines it as “paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment and… Read more »